When Routine Overrides Romance
Once a couple have been living together for a while they tend to get into a rut or a comfort zone that is very difficult to break out of without a lot of effort. It is a bit like going to the gym – difficult to get started but you tend to enjoy it once you get into the rhythm of things. It is the same with romance. Once you stop making the effort it is difficult to light the fires again. But if you want to put the romance back in your life and make your relationship a little or a lot more exciting again – get yourself out of your comfort zones and make the effort. You will be surprised at the big results you see from a small investment
How to get out of your Comfort Zone
Whether you have children in your home or not – now is the time to stop making excuses that you are too tired or don’t have the time. We are all too busy or too tired but unless you are both prepared to work together at your relationship then what quality of life will you have anyway? I know romance is supposed to be spontaneous but if you are working on a tight schedule then you can put some time aside on your calendar for “planned spontaneity”. It sounds like a contradiction in terms but together you can make it work. The key word here is “together” because it does take two to tango so agree on at least one date night every two weeks and you have taken your first step towards reviving your romance. Take charge and deliberately put the romance back in your life or what you have now is probably as good as it is ever going to be.
Preparing for Date Night
Plan ahead. Discuss the type of evening you would like to enjoy together. Inform the children that they need to eat early and spend the evening at the home of a friend. Prepare as much as the meal as you can in advance so that neither of you needs to spend much time in kitchen or purchase a delicious three course meal from a caterer. Plan your soft, romantic background music ahead of time. Set the table with beautiful flowers and candles for soft lighting. You definitely both need to dress for the occasion just as you would if you were going out to eat at an upmarket restaurant so do your grooming ahead of time. The wife can take care of the food side of things while the husband arranges the flowers, music and wine. This will not be much of an effort and the payoff is that you will both have a chance to re-discover one another again without distraction. Bring the love back into your life and enjoy the mood of youth.
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